The pastoral work of a naturalistic theologian
In my last piece I wrote that I take religious experience seriously, and that I now intend to ask, plainly, what evidence warrants the move from an experience to a supernatural explanation of it.
I meant that.
But I was writing about arguments.
Most people who bring me their experiences are not making arguments.
They are telling me what happened to them.
So the question I want to take up here is the one I left unanswered there:
When someone brings me an experience that arrives in the language of God, what does a naturalistic theologian have to offer?
Let me put it as concretely as I can.
Suppose a woman tells me that her husband, in the last hour of his life, opened his eyes, looked at something past her shoulder, and smiled.
Suppose she says, “God was in the room.”
What do I say?
Two Failures
There are two easy responses, and both are flawed.
The first is correction.
“What you experienced was real, but it was not God. It was grief, and love, and a dying brain doing what dying brains do.”
Every word of that may be true. It is also cruel, and it is cruel because it is beside the point. She did not come for a theory of the event. She came carrying something that nearly broke her open, and she used the only word she had ever been given for such an experience.
To correct the word in that moment is to tell her that the thing she is holding is not what she thinks it is. It is to take the experience out of her hands and inspect it while she watches.
I have been a priest for a long time. I know what that does to a face.
The second easy response is pretending.
“Yes. God was with you both.”
This is what I might have at an earlier time in my life. It is warm, it is fast, and it costs nothing.
Except that I no longer believe it, and I am not willing to live in the gap between what I say at a bedside and what I say in an essay.
Caution can become concealment. So can kindness.
Which Came First
Here is what I have come to understand.
The experience came first. The word came second. But they did not arrive separately.
When she says “God was in the room,” she is not offering a hypothesis about an invisible agent. She is reaching for the largest word she has, because what happened was larger than any other word she owns.
Think of it this way. Water arrives in a cup. The cup is not the water. But if I take the cup away in order to show her the water, she will have nothing to hold, and the water will be on the floor.
The word “God” is the cup her experience arrived in.
A naturalistic theologian does not have to believe the cup is sacred in order to know better than to knock it out of her hands.
What I Can Say Honestly
So what can I say?
I can say, “I believe you.”
I can say, “Something profound happened in that room.”
I can say, “Tell me about the smile.”
None of that is pretending. All of it is true. She had an experience. It was real as an experience. It rearranged something in her, and it deserves to be heard before it deserves to be explained.
This is the thing I want to be clear about, because I think it is where naturalistic theology is most easily misunderstood.
The distinction between experience and explanation is not a tool for winning.
It is what makes it possible for me to say “I believe you” without lying.
If I could not separate what happened from the account given of it, I would have only two choices: accept her account or reject her experience. The distinction frees me from that. I can receive the experience whole and hold the explanation open.
That is not a compromise. It is the only honest posture I have found.
When She Asks
And suppose that later, when the first weight has lifted a little, she asks me directly what I think.
I will not dodge.
I will tell her that I do not believe a being entered the room. I will tell her that I think what she experienced was made of love, and of years, and of a body letting go, and of her own attention, sharpened by dread and tenderness to a point where the ordinary boundaries of things gave way.
And I will tell her that I do not think this makes it smaller.
She may not accept that. On the other hand she might. Either way, I will have told her the truth, and I will have told it only when she asked for it.
The Standard Everyone Already Uses
There is something I would want her to notice, if she was willing.
If her neighbor should says the Buddha appeared to her, what does she think?
Most of us, hearing about a divinity we do not accept, do something very natural. We grant the experience and withhold the explanation. We’d say, “Something happened to her,” and not say, “The Buddha was there.” We do not feel we are being disrespectful. We feel we are being sensible.
Every believer already distinguishes experience from explanation. They do it every time they hear about someone else’s god.
All I am asking is that we apply the same sense to ourselves.
That is not an attack on faith. It is a request for reciprocity.
What Survives the Question
The fear beneath all of this, I think, is that if the explanation goes, the meaning goes with it.
If God was not in the room, then it was just a man dying.
But that is precisely the reduction I refuse.
It was a man dying, and it was also the last hour of a life, and it was someone who did not look away, and it was a smile that came from somewhere she could not follow. It was awe. It was grief. It was presence, in the exact sense that something was present to her that mattered beyond every ordinary concern.
That is what I mean by sacred.
I have said that grace survives God, that agapē survives God, that the sacred survives God. This is what that looks like when it is not a slogan.
It looks like sitting with someone, letting the old word stand for as long as she needs it, and offering, when she asks and only when she asks, a way of seeing what happened that does not require her to defend a cosmology in order to keep her husband’s smile.
The Vocation That Remains
I renounced my orders as an Episcopal priest because I could no longer stand before that community and say things I did not believe.
I did not renounce the work of hearing what happened to someone, of helping them find what it means, or of standing with them while meaning does its slow work on their life. That is what I have always understood priesthood to be about.
It turns out that priesthood does not require the supernatural, or ordination.
It requires attention, honesty, and the willingness to hold an experience with both hands while the question of what caused it stays open.
That is naturalistic theology at a bedside.
It asks what evidence warrants a conclusion, yes.
But it asks the question of the explanation, never of the person.
It simply believes the person.
